Parents and professionals around the world share how Triple P can change families – for the better. Read what is being said about Triple P.
Claire, Airdrie, Alberta
I [had become] quite short tempered and found myself shouting at the kids (daughters, aged 4 and 2) a lot. [But] my children have responded well to the [Group Triple P] program. The minute I stopped shouting, so did they.
We have moved house twice since the program so we have gone through two periods of readjustment and the kids handle new situations better because I am able to prepare them better for it.
I learned to explain what's about to happen and what the rules are, and the consequences if the rules aren't followed. Because I am more consistent in my explanations and following through, they know I mean it and I rarely have to carry out a consequence.
The kids respond really well to knowing what is about to happen. Involving them means I get their cooperation. Also, talking through the activity afterwards seems to help affirm which behaviour was appreciated by me and encourages them to do it again next time.
Tanya and Tom, Calgary, Alberta
[Our kids] go to regular schools, where they do very well, but when they return home, we kind of get the worst of them. It's when they act out. Our daughter (10) is known to have temper tantrums; our son (8) has huge temper tantrums (both have been diagnosed with high-functioning autism and adhd).
[Stepping Stones Triple P] worked for us and our home life has improved considerably. Doing the group together as a couple has also meant that we're now consistent with our approaches, which is great for the children.
My son's tantrums have dropped – both in number and height and length. Because I know what I'm going to do will relax and calm him, it's not going to go on all day.
The issues don't disappear for children with special needs; they're not necessarily going to stop having tantrums altogether but they are getting an immediate and consistent response to the behaviours. It includes giving the kids some quiet time to calm down.
Janine, Kinark, Canada
THE DIFFERENCE IN OUR HOME IS UNBELIEVABLE. WE HAVE A THREE-AND-A-HALF-YEAR-OLD SON. HE STAYS WITH HIS GRANDMA THROUGH THE DAY WHILE WE WORK. BEFORE COMING TO TRIPLE P MY SON CRIED AND CRIED EACH DAY BECAUSE HE DID NOT WANT TO COME BACK HOME WITH US AT THE END OF THE DAY. HE WANTED TO STAY WITH GRANDMA. IT BROKE MY HEART…WHEN WE STARTED COMING [TO TRIPLE P] WE WERE AT OPPOSITE ENDS OF THE PARENTING SPECTRUM. NOW WE ARE ALMOST UNITED IN THE MIDDLE: MY HUSBAND IS LESS DICTATORIAL, I AM LESS LENIENT. OUR CHILD IS LESS CONFUSED AND FRUSTRATED.
Kathy and Dan, Esterhazy, Canada
We have fostered children for almost eight years, having over 50 children in our home. We adopted our son three years ago. He was our second child in the house eight years ago. He is a great kid but came with some baggage. Now he is 12 and has become very distraught over the smallest things.
First day, first [Teen Triple P] lesson…we are not alone. Many people are in the same boat. We realized that we are normal and dealing with different children than when we raised ours over 20 years ago [we both have three children from previous marriages]. We have learned that we can talk to our kids. It has been quite interesting seeing the changes in our house. The volume has decreased and the smiles increased. Did they change? No!! They are so sneaky, they changed the parents. It’s not ground breaking but it is coming along nicely. Simple please and thank yous, asking your kids to do something and realizing that they have a voice and can chose to say no without causing a meltdown. Things get done and everyone wins.
I can’t thank the program enough. It has taught all of us a lesson of which I won’t forget. Our lives are happier. Our house quieter. And our children take direction much easier.
Victoria, Canora, Canada
Three months ago my world was falling apart: work and parenting three grandchildren, that all had unique issues. They often indicated I played favourites over other grandchildren and expected everything for free. I have worked with my family to lower my stressors (no extra duties and being able to say no). I had the unique opportunity to register for [Teen Triple P] at a workshop I was attending. I am so ever thankful for this registration.
The program has provided me with tools, to be able to work toward positive teen parenting. By being able to set ground rules and developing a chores list with the children, they are learning to develop tools such as respect and responsibly and be proud of their contribution to our family. I now see the children happy and laughing instead of fighting.
The most positive thing we have learnt is that if our behaviours are not working at the moment, we have some time to think it over, consequence is short, and the kids are able to restart on working on positive behaviours the next day. The most positive is being able to talk to the teens.
The teens have shared that our family is stronger because we are able to share laughs and talk.
An incredible amount of practical information
Thomas, Glasgow, Scotland
My wife and I gained an incredible amount of practical information given in a friendly non-invasive environment. The advice was presented in an easy-to-understand format and supported well by video. Many of the changes suggested were really changes in our parenting rather than forcing something unreasonable upon the children.
We have been pleasantly surprised by how well our children behave both in our company and with babysitters. Although they’re far from being angels we now have the tools to control potentially explosive situations and I think that helps for a more relaxing and predictable home life. And happy children.
Duong, Brisbane, Australia
My wife and I have two children, a boy 9, and a girl, 5. In Vietnamese culture we just follow our parents but times change and (because we are) living in a new country we need to adapt and learn new techniques.
In the course you have the chance to talk and share with other parents. I strongly recommend and encourage parents, both moms and dads, to do it. It respected my culture.
Isaura, Curacao, Netherlands Antilles
I hope that more parents can get this support, so that they can be better mothers for their children. At the start I wondered if this course had come too late in my life. And now I have the answer to that: absolutely not! It’s never too late to learn how you can be a better person and a better mother and to recognize mistakes and make things right again. From the bottom of my heart, thank you! I’m convinced that I’m a different person now and a different mother, compared to what I was eight weeks ago.
Sandra, Bradford, England
My son is 11 and has learning difficulties and I’m a single parent. We were always at loggerheads... I liked the small group because I used to think I had the only child like that. When I saw other parents who are worse off, I knew that, at the end of the day, I wasn’t the only one out there with problems. Triple P has given me a lot more confidence. Before, I wasn’t able to talk to anybody about the problems. My confidence was going down. This helped to deal with that.
Since I’ve learnt to talk to my son in an appropriate way his behaviour has improved at school too. It used to be that three days a week he’d be sent home from school…There’s been the odd little blip, but it’s just much calmer…I wish we could have done Triple P (when he was) in primary school. It could have prevented a lot of problems.
Cathy, Gold Coast, Australia
(Cathy’s six- year-old son has autism and was hitting, scratching and having meltdowns during shopping trips.)
[Stepping Stones] Triple P showed us ways to control the behaviour and taught us that getting into a routine would make our lives easier and better. It all sounded so simple and the best part was that once we put into practice what we were taught at each session, it did actually work! Before Triple P we devoted every waking minute to Robert… I thought the only meaningful thing I would do with my life would be looking after Robert. Triple P taught me that I could still contribute to the community and they showed me how important it was that I make time for myself and still have time for Robert.
I wish I could show you what Robert is like today and how much he has changed from when we began the Triple P program. If you saw us out today, you wouldn’t think he was the same child. As for me, well I can now go to work without worrying about whether or not I am doing the right thing. I just hope that all families who have a child with a disability have the opportunity [to do Stepping Stones] as our family is living proof that it can make a huge difference to their lives.
Noel, Yorkshire, England
I’m a single dad, my son Jack is 11. Jack was getting into trouble at home and at school. My social worker came around with the Triple P video. When it started I was very aggressive. I thought they (social workers) were against me. You know, you’re worried they were trying to take the kids off you.
But now I see they want to keep parents and kids together. I did 16 sessions (of Group and Pathways Triple P) and Jack got better and better. It worked wonders. Me and Jack used to have loads and loads of anger. [Now]…the relationship is 200-300-400 per cent better! We’ll still find something to argue about – but we’ll get over it. And I can sit down and have a conversation and not blow my top! We have become friends. It’s a fantastic experience I’ve had. There’s light at the end of the tunnel.
Joanna, Herefordshire, England
Liam (13) was quite violent around the house. He would trash things and break things and I was at my wits’ end with him. All my attention seemed to be on Liam all the time and I had my other children to take into account as well. [I thought] the only option was to tell him he had to go and live with his dad or go away and live in a home or something. Triple P taught me that I had to grow a backbone, basically, and stand up for my rights as the mother….with no boundaries a child is out of control… Liam has changed for the better. He is a more considerate, selfless person. He’s helpful. He’s better with his brother. He’s better with his sister. We’ve got a new addition to the family, which is a dog, and he’s absolutely wonderful with the dog; willing to take it for walks. So he is an all-round nice person.
Some names have been changed to protect privacy.
Professor Patrick McGrath, School of Psychology, Psychiatry and Biomedical Engineering, Dalhousie University, Canada
The program is a revolution by which ordinary families will have access to the best that the past 30 years of research on families can offer. The materials are outstanding, the program design is excellent and the science is superb. The program is the best in the world. I recommend Triple P without reservation.
World standard of best practice
Professor Kurt Hahlweg, Institut für Psychologie Technische Universität Braunschweig, Germany
My colleagues and I regard Triple P as the world standard of best practice in the family intervention area.
The best in the world
Professor Stephen Scott, CBE, Institute of Psychiatry, Kings College, University of London, England
Triple P is a great program. To my mind, it is the best in the world at addressing the needs of the whole community. The different components are carefully tailored to the needs of a range of parents. The content is based on best scientific practice, and is accessible and fun. Above all, it has been proven in numerous controlled trials to be highly effective.
Flexible to meet different families’ needs
John C. Duby, M.D., Director, Division of Developmental and Behavioral Pediatrics, Akron Children’s Hospital, Ohio, U.S.A.
Triple P is the only research-based parenting program that provides the flexibility to adapt to the needs of families and to a variety of service settings. It is highly appealing to me as a pAediatrician because it provides a set of tools that allow me to address common concerns of parents efficiently and effectively.
Sensible, proven techniques
Professor Fiona Stanley, Distinguished Professorial Fellow in the School of Paediatrics and Child Health at the University of Western Australia; Patron Telethon Institute for Child Health Research; 2003 Australian of the Year
Triple P offers straight forward, sensible techniques that have proven to be very effective.
Helps parents deal with everyday and difficult issues
Professor Howard Markman, Professor of Psychology, University of Denver, Colorado, U.S.A.
The Every Parent video series should be in the hands of every parent. They will find it user friendly and it will make a difference in how their kids develop and grow. This is a scientifically-based program that blends high educational value with a very entertaining presentation of the skills and ideas that have been found to help parents deal with the everyday and difficult issues that all of us parents encounter.